The Civil Rights Unmovement ERA

Activism raises the discussion on whether the people are fed, clothed, and housed. Those needs are envisioned by equality and reform in education, economics,environment ,enforcement opportunity. The lack of activism has led to:

A generation that glorifies drug use and criminal activity

TV shows and videos that need to have a rating of at least R before viewed.

More money being spent diamond teeth, spinning rims, designer clothes than on 401k.

Fatherhood being devalued. As evidenced by the amount of single mothers.

Teenage parents. Younger criminals. Lower graduation rates.

Problem solving through violence.

People that will stand in line for hours to get into an exclusive night club but stand for nothing else.

Published in: on October 27, 2007 at 1:08 am  Comments (1)  
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Being A Feminist

If you grew up in the 60’s and 70’s like me, you probably were indoctrinated with the belief that feminist were “man haters”, “lesbians”, and “braless she-males”. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Initially, my parents impacted me. My mother involved herself in politics that were anti-sexist and anti-racist. She never considered herself a feminist (which is indicator of patriarchy’s influence). My father seemed to challenge patriarchal norms. He consistently voiced a belief in equality between all sexes and races as well as other unequal facets of our society. I guess being in an interracial relationship my father had gotten used to discussing topics that were uncomfortable for others.

Feminism has grown in diversity. Additionally, it has incorporated the drive for equality in many other social injustices other than just gender. Just as the civil rights movement has evolved more than just a “black cause”. Both continue to try to establish social, political and economic equality between all races, sexes, sexual orientations, etc. Understand gender oppression is deeply intertwined with racism, classism, colonialism, ableism, the state, the destruction of the environment, and ultimately civilization itself. A lot of men I know don’t understand this. When I tell them I am a feminist, there is laughter, sneers, and frowns. I’m either a opportunist or a punk, don’t have enough “game” or soft, looking for an angle or my favorite “you know how I know you are gay….you say you are a feminist”. My response is always “How can a man not be a feminist?”. Let me ask the skeptics. Do you believe that people are entitled to basic human rights regardless of race, class or gender? If the answer is yes, then that is the fundamental principles of feminism. Why is the idea of a woman standing up for herself so radical? Why is the idea of a man supporting this so radical? While most men are willing to acknowledge unfair treatment of women and discrimination based on gender, many are reluctant to own up to their backward-ass gender politics, particularly in public. How many of us take other men to task over their misogyny or sexism in the absence of women? Are your actions tutoring young males to embrace sexist ideas and values? These seemingly little things and many more create a climate that maintains misogyny , inadvertently or not, supports and condones behaviors and thinking patterns that are a part of rape, sexual violence, and gender discrimination.

There are probably many closeted feminist men, who don’t know how or when to enter feminism. Here is my four step plan for you:

1. Confront in the absence- If you truly don’t support discrimination and misogyny then confront when there are no women in the room. Isiah Thomas and MSG should wish someone called them out sooner. Not only it is cost effective but it is right.

2. Educate yourself- Recognize the diversity in feminism. We do not all agree on every topic just like any other group. Oppression and degradation come in many forms. Be critical. Look at things like the media, advertisements, and programming with a more critical eye. Read and discuss issues with the women in your lives.

3. Get Active- One of my defining moments in my transformation was dating a woman who was gang raped. The range of emotions that she went through on a daily basis was heart wrenching. One minute she wanted to be held, the next minute she couldn’t be in the same room with me. The relationship was deteriorating until I went to a rape crisis center and understood that a man’s body part is a weapon if not used correctly and responsibly.

4. Show your support- In the time it took you to read this article, two women were sexually assaulted. If a woman tells you she was or felt abused, believe her. Don’t minimize it. The statistics are mind boggling. One in every four women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. Take a time out and pick four women you care about and choose one.

If you are still wondering why I am a feminist its OK. Im still wondering why you aren’t

Published in: on October 24, 2007 at 11:03 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Something I don’t understand

Before I started this blog, I have posted many articles about violence toward women only to find comments like “What about the violence toward men that women do”. My articles intent are to hopefully have men embrace notion of a progressive masculinities that share in the goals of feminism and womanism. Personally speaking I have victimized far more women in my lifetime than I have been victimized by them. I have been emotionally and physically abusive. It wasn’t until I confronted these issues inside of me that I was able to redefine myself to a more progressive masculinity. One where I can cry, show emotion, and who can resist and challenge the sexism, misogyny and patriarchal norms of our society. My sense is that while most men are willing to acknowledge unfair treatment of women, discrimination on the basis of gender, they are usually reluctant to admit that hatred of women is encouraged because it helps maintain the structure of male dominance. All I want to do is place accountability and bring attention to larger structures of domination and the individuals who are hierarchically placed to maintain and perpetuate the values that uphold these exploitative and oppressive systems.  Feel me….

Published in: on October 17, 2007 at 11:55 pm  Comments (2)  
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Are You a Feminist???

 So many stereotypes, so little time…….

Published in: on October 13, 2007 at 1:51 am  Leave a Comment  
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Your Friendly Reminder

If a woman is drunk, don’t rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don’t rape her.
If a woman is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don’t rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you’re still hung up on, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don’t rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don’t rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don’t rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don’t rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don’t rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don’t rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don’t rape her.
If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend.
If your “friend” tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there’s an unconscious woman upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape her, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.
Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.
Don’t tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
Don’t imply that she could have avoided it if she’d only done/not done x.
Don’t imply that it’s in any way her fault.
Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he “got some” with the drunk girl.
Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, re-post it. It’s that important.

Note: This goes for any gendered rape, male on female or female on male or female on female or FTM on MTF or non gendered to dual gendered and so on and so forth…. -author unknown

Published in: on October 13, 2007 at 1:43 am  Leave a Comment  
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To Every Man Who Has Never Called Himself A Feminist

Rape is a male problem.  Lets teach our sons not to rape and stop relying on teaching our daughters how not to get raped.  Males, young and old, must be held politically accountable for their sexism and misogyny. 

Published in: on October 7, 2007 at 4:03 am  Comments (1)  
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Not Your Exotic, Not Your Erotic

Published in: on October 6, 2007 at 1:13 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Sexist of the Month (September)

Isiah Thomas in his infinite wisdom said that it was acceptable for black men to call black women “bitches” but it wasn’t acceptable for white men.  He called white men calling black women “highly offensive” and “”That would have violated my code of conduct.”  Let me see……black misogyny is ok but white is not.  Got it.  Isiah should not be let off the hook or we are sending him the same message.  He was an arrogant player and now is just as arrogant as a coach/ GM.  The Knicks should be boycotted until his removal……

Published in: on October 6, 2007 at 12:58 pm  Leave a Comment  
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