Comments on: Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Misogyny

By: Marie

Marie — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 02:09:26 +0000

I appreciate the sentiment in this web site. Good for you.

However. You do not need to include the sexually explicit details of the attack. Why is it necessary to say where he stuck his finger? It is a titillating detail that relives the crime for the enjoyment of those who like stories of women being degraded. Can you neutralize the details and tell the story in a way that doesn’t sexualize the woman all over again?

But in any case, you’re a lot futher than most men. So bless you for that.

By: deconfusing

deconfusing — Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:29:12 +0000

Thank you for this. I would add to always take it seriously when a woman is afraid. My abuser was too smart to be physically violent, but I had become terribly afraid of him because of mind games. I was losing my mind, but had nothing substantial, behavior wise, to point to. In hindsight, one thing I have learned is that if a woman is afraid, there is a reason. It is easy to write it off as “She is just a fearful person.” I had become a fearful person, but to anyone looking on, the focus of the fear was centered on my husband. It spread out to others, but directly proportional to his influence in their lives–if they knew both of us well, I was afraid of them. If they only knew me, I wasn’t afraid. I would say, do not discount fear as the woman is crazy just because you don’t understand why she is afraid. Listen to and trust her fear. Take it seriously. Well, take her seriously, and that includes taking her fear seriously.

By: sassybelle

sassybelle — Sat, 08 Dec 2007 05:18:59 +0000

wow. incredible… as a survivor of rape, I can’t tell you what it meant to me to have men in my life say: “I will fight for you and for what you deserve” and then come beside me to protect me and redeem me.

this is a great blog. thanks for your perspective!

By: jessica

jessica — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 02:31:58 +0000

touche, sir. touche. i appreciate your voice on these issues. need more.

By: Oni Baba

Oni Baba — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 17:51:44 +0000

Here’s a book you might want to look at:

T. Walter Herbert, “Sexual Violence and American Manhood” (London: Harvard University Press, 2002)

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